POLYGAMY IN SALVADOR, A WAY TO COMPENSATE THE LOVE MISSING?

Are very famous, until in literature, the stories about the love infidelity in Salvador. It's a human defect that is made as a pretending tradition, which in current days begins through subtile friends tenderness.

It is so constant to see boys and girls who are just friends to hold on like a couple of valentines. A young guy cherishing the pretty girl's ass dressed by jeans, feeling the confortable form of the brazilian popularly knows as "popozão" ("big ass"). Or he touches her ass jeans-dressed to steal some money, but this is other story. There's other young lady uprising her friend boy's shirt to touch his pectoral. There's other young friend duo, a boy and a girl, each one having a respective consorts (valentines, brides or partners in marriage), but having lover tenderness in the College patios, she kiding with his hair fibres and he, sometimes, kissing her neck. This "friendly" tenderness happens also in religion classes.

So much people don't distrust about it, and say that this is really just a "healthy tenderness from friends". But in so several times the girl whose husband is working, whose children is in the nursery and everything else, goes to visit her best friend's home (a friend maybe so much handsome than her husband) with the pretension to study the scholar homeworks when the real purpose is the sex practice, being so careful to not make the girl pregnant, avoiding a scandal. It's better to let facts like this to the pages of the famous Machado de Assis' book, "Dom Casmurro", a main literary example of love infidelity.

"Galinhagem" is the brazilian popular slang concerning to the love infidelity. That word also classifies a pseudo love affair, without compromise but futile and frivolous anyway. The brazilian "galinha" men don't want to love, they just want to have fun, and if some of they fall in love so quickly than this love finishes, they're able to betray the "love of their lives" from yesterday for a "new love" suddenly appeared. It doesn't matter that they are compromised or they aren't, the polygamy, as the popular kind of brazilian "galinhagem", like this name means, can be compared to the several chickens loving the same cock or one cock loving different chickens from the several chicken roosts. Or a chicken who loves a cock but seduces the chicken children from the neighbourhood.

As we learned, Salvador has more men than women, in the proportion of two men to each one woman, the polygamy has the intention to make the men to come in terms for one taking to love the other else's wife, being pretentiously the "married girl's best friend". The brazilian "galinhagem" also works for the old men's benefit, whose passed in several marriages for, afterwards, to have conviction that they want to be single, to give strenght to those men's animal instinct and go out with youngest girls, the chicks who are so perfect to a vulgar sexual act.

The polygamy goes to make a split of the familiar structure, complicating the children's education because these kids, knew about their parents divorce, beside the love infidelity and discardment (for example, to have one different love affair per week), and goes in the most of times to make these children so insensible, agnostic and unsure, for missing them the good referential to a decent and permanent love life.

After all, the polygamy that makes the social life a a licentious chaos, stimulates the common people's promiscuity, but helps the fast rising of dangerous sicknesses from nowadays, as AIDS, syphilis and so many other. At last, married men and womenAfinal, homens e mulheres casados, according to the recent scientific researches, are so much subject to the HIV virus infection, and this risk hides the infidelity love affairs by any one of the consorts.

Of course, this sexual party must to bring so much problems in the future. And it is not a right solution to the male hegemony in cities as the Salvador from Bahia.

 

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